ok I noticed in the method integrator it was complaing that I need to do a batabase repair in QB. So i did that, did a full sync with Quickbook winning and now when I try to delete the contact I get a different message, "cant delete this is the quickbooks alt contact" So i go into quickbooks remove it, select quick books wins again and perform another full sync.
Only Quickbooks doesnt win, instead of removing it from the CRM it puts it back in quickbooks